My morning rhythm includes meditation, yoga stretches, and a quiet moment to journal. I love these moments before the day begins. It’s how I center myself before the world wakes up.
But every time I go on a house-sit, that rhythm shifts. The space is different, the schedule is new, and my mornings rarely look the same. For a while, that used to bother me. I’d tell myself, “I’m off track.”
Then I realized something important. Maybe the gap between my home routine and my house-sit flow isn’t a setback. Maybe it’s grace in motion.
Because even when the form changes, the intention doesn’t. I’m still seeking peace, reflection, and balance — just in a new setting. And when I return home, I ease back into my familiar rhythm with a deeper sense of appreciation.
The plan unraveled, but maybe that’s how grace made room for something truer.
Reflection Prompt: Where might a gap in your plan be guiding you toward grace?
The trees outside my window are starting to change again.
One leaf, then another, letting go without resistance — no fight, no regret, just rhythm.
It made me wonder: what would it look like to release my own “leaves” that no longer serve me? An outdated routine, a worn-out worry, or maybe even the need to hold everything together.
We spend so much energy clutching the familiar. This happens even when it’s no longer fruitful. We forget how freeing release can be.
What Simplicity Taught Me Today
Letting go isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom.
It’s the quiet strength of knowing when something has run its course. It is trusting yourself enough to move ahead without it.
Grace comes when we stop labeling release as loss. We can start seeing it as space. It is space for peace, creativity, or the next version of who we’re becoming.
The truth is, simplicity often begins not by adding something new, but by releasing what no longer fits.
Reflection Prompt
What are you still carrying that’s weighing you down — mentally, emotionally, or physically?
Take a deep breath. Picture yourself setting it down, even just for a moment.
Notice how your body feels when you do.
Sometimes the first step to peace is permission to let go.
Keep Walking
Next, we’ll explore how simplicity helps you refine your focus. It helps you realign your goals in Day 5 — Simplify Your Goals.
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Author’s Note
Written after watching leaves fall outside my window — a reminder that nature doesn’t rush or resist its seasons. It simply lets go.
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I used to think I needed a new space to feel renewed.
This week reminded me of something important. Sometimes the space needs me. It requires my attention, my intention, and my willingness to start.
As I cleared a small corner of my desk today, something surprising happened: my mind quieted.
The more I moved unnecessary things aside, the more my thoughts seemed to fall into order too. It wasn’t about tidying for perfection — it was about making room for peace.
What Simplicity Taught Me Today
Our outer environment often mirrors our inner one.
When things feel crowded or chaotic around us, it can be a signal to pause and reset within.
Decluttering doesn’t always mean deep cleaning or major projects.
Sometimes it’s just putting away what’s out of place — or releasing what no longer supports who we’re becoming.
A calm space is an act of self-respect. It says, “I deserve room to think, breathe, and create.”
Reflection Prompt
Look around the space you’re in right now.
What one small thing could you clear, organize, or release that would make it feel lighter?
As you do, notice how your energy shifts — even slightly.
Physical order often invites mental ease.
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Next, we’ll explore how to make room emotionally in Day 4 — Letting Go with Grace.
Author’s Note
I wrote this after clearing a corner of my workspace. I realized peace doesn’t always arrive. Sometimes, we make space for it.
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(A behind-the-scenes reflection from Day 2 — Clearing Mental Clutter)
That sunrise in Cabo San Lucas will always stay with me.
It was my first girl’s trip — the kind that promised laughter, connection, and warm ocean air. But somewhere between the sunrise and the catamaran, it became more than a vacation.
Standing on the sand that morning, I watched the sun rise from the water. I realized how long it had been since I simply watched something without analyzing it. No plans. No to-do lists. Just breath and light.
Later that day, stretched out on a catamaran, the waves did what words couldn’t. Their rhythm matched my heartbeat. My thoughts slowed down, not because I forced them to, but because I finally let life lead for a while.
That trip reminded me: clearing mental clutter isn’t about fixing or organizing every thought. Sometimes, it’s about trusting that peace knows how to find you — especially when you stop chasing it.
Reflection Prompt
When was the last time your mind truly quieted down? What helped — the place, the people, or simply giving yourself permission to rest?
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During today’s walk, my mind was louder than the world around me.
Lists. Plans. What-ifs. All of it looping like static.
Then a breeze brushed across my face, and in that instant, everything paused.
I couldn’t feel the wind and worry at the same time.
That tiny interruption reminded me that peace doesn’t always need perfect circumstances—just a little space to notice the now.
What Simplicity Taught Me Today
Mental clutter doesn’t disappear because we “think harder.”
It softens when we stop long enough to see what truly needs our attention.
Sometimes, the act of stopping and processing reveals that what we thought was urgent… isn’t.
And what truly matters has been waiting quietly beneath the noise.
Clearing space isn’t only about silencing thoughts. It’s about sorting them. It’s about seeing what belongs. It’s also about letting the rest drift away.
Sometimes that means stepping outside, closing your eyes, and letting the air do its quiet work.
Reflection Prompt
Where does your mind feel most crowded right now—your schedule, your emotions, or your to-do list?
Pause and ask yourself: What really needs my attention right now?
Write it down or speak it out loud, and let the wind have the rest.
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Author’s Note
Written after a breezy morning walk. Silence spoke louder than thought. Clarity came from realizing what actually mattered.
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Some mornings, I wake up already three steps ahead of myself — thinking, planning, managing. Today I caught that pattern and decided to do something radically simple: I walked.
No playlist. No timer. Just footsteps, breath, and the slow unraveling of my thoughts. By the time I rounded the corner back home, I realized I didn’t need to plan peace. I only needed to make space for it.
What Simplicity Taught Me Today
We spend so much time trying to design perfect beginnings that we forget beginnings only need to start. A single, unpolished action is often what opens the door to momentum.
Simplicity doesn’t shrink us — it centers us. It turns effort into ease, and motion into meaning.
Reflection Prompt
What’s one area of your life that’s waiting for a simple start?
Don’t over-engineer it — just choose the next smallest step you can take today.
It might be a ten-minute walk, clearing one counter, or sitting quietly before you scroll.
Take that step, breathe, and notice how it feels to move without the pressure of perfect.
Keep Walking
Join us as we’ll continue with Day 2 — Clearing Mental Clutter.
Bring your curiosity, a journal if you’d like, and a few quiet minutes to think.
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Author’s Note
Written after a sunrise walk, when the air was still cool and the world felt uncomplicated. Sometimes peace just needs permission to arrive.
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There’s something about this season of life that keeps whispering the same word to me: simple. Not smaller. Not less. Just simple.
Maybe it’s because I’ve spent years building, creating, and juggling. Somewhere along the way, I realized that even good things can get heavy. Or maybe it’s because walking has become my reminder that peace often hides in the pauses we resist taking.
Whatever the reason, I felt a quiet nudge. I wanted to explore what happens when I stop complicating what’s already working. The goal is to strip things down to their honest rhythm.
Why This Journey
So I’m beginning a seven-day journey I’m calling “Simplicity is Powerful.”
Each day, I’ll share a short reflection. It is a moment from my walk or a thought that surfaced. It is also a truth that asked to be noticed. After this, I’ll offer a gentle prompt for you to try if it speaks to you.
This isn’t a program or a checklist. It’s a walk.
Some days, it might just be to take deep breaths. Others challenge you to release something that no longer fits.
All I ask is that you bring curiosity and kindness to yourself.
A Simple Truth
The more I slow down, the more I see:
Simplicity isn’t about doing less — it’s about doing what matters with more peace.
Are you ready to walk this out with me? Let’s start together this Wednesday with Day 1 — The Power of Simple Starts.
Walking trail in Tacoma, Washington
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Author’s Notes
Written during my morning walk, between the rustle of leaves and the rhythm of my breath. Each step reminded me that clarity doesn’t come from control — it comes from motion.
#ConfidentStrides | #SweetNSocial | Written by Tonia Tyler
I’ve been blogging on and off since 2014. Looking back, I noticed a pattern. I’d write for a stretch, then pause. I returned in 2017 and 2018. I picked it back up in 2022 and then paused again. For a while I thought of that as inconsistency. But maybe those were simply the seasons when I needed to pause, think, and process life.
So today, I want to officially introduce myself.
My name is Tonia. I’m a retired Army veteran with 20 years of military and leadership experience. I carry those lessons of discipline and resilience into everything I do. Most of my insights come to me while I’m walking. Moving through the world helps me process thoughts. It sparks creativity. It also allows me to see things from new perspectives.
I’m also a former podcast host. For four years I hosted Coffee with T. It was a conversational space where guests and I explored personal growth, business, and life lessons. That experience taught me the power of authentic dialogue. It also highlighted the value of giving others a platform to share their stories.
Community is another heartbeat of mine. I organize meetups that bring people together for networking, encouragement, and growth. Whether online or in person, I believe in the magic of people gathering to support each other.
Of course, life lessons don’t always come from formal roles. Sometimes the greatest insights come from my granddaughter, who reminds me that joy and curiosity are powerful teachers. Other times, they come from everyday adventures. These include house sitting and pet sitting. I’ve learned just as much from wagging tails and quiet purrs as I have from leadership books.
This blog is where I weave all those threads together. It’s a space for reflection. It offers practical wisdom. It explores what it means to live with confidence and stride ahead with purpose.
So if you’re new here, welcome. And if you’ve walked with me before, thank you for staying on the journey.
“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.” ― Jordan Belfort
Have you ever stopped doing something you enjoyed because you didn’t get likes, subscribers or followers you wanted? I want to talk about how we can manage the external sources of influence that keep us from creating the life we want.
One day while I was running, I was thinking to myself that I would stop making Instagram Reels. The problem with that thinking is, I love making Instagram Reel videos. I love taking 10-second clips of video and turning it into a snippet of entertainment. I think that is why I have enjoyed learning how to make YouTube videos too.
Back to the problem, I was getting frustrated because I was losing followers on my IG page and I automatically assume it was because of the videos. I also started criticizing myself for posting videos of the nature I would see on my walks which helps me to stay creative.
I was ready to stop doing the one of the things that brings me joy because of external sources. In many cases we don’t know or will never know why people unfollow, unsubscribe, or unlike us, but our minds will search for reasons and that what was happening to me.
Here’s what we have to keep in mind, their action have nothing to do with us. We are internalizing or trying to rationalize what someone else is thinking when we try to “guess” or “figure out” what made them take action without ever asking them directly. When we do this, nothing positive usually comes from this kind of thinking. We are our worst critiques!
When we decide to stop doing the things we enjoy doing because of likes, subscribers, or followers we are measuring our success by the standards of others. These are what we call external sources of influences. Learning how to navigate these external sources of influences is key especially when it comes to honoring what it is that we enjoy doing and makes us happy.
Here are a few suggestions that have helped me:
Define what success looks like to you.
Asking yourself what feeling are you after is a great place to start. Are you after happiness? Inner peace? Fulfillment? Then ask yourself, what kinds of activities bring me those kinds of feelings?
When I started walking years ago, I was looking for inner peace during a chaotic period of my life. Nine years later, I still walk because I found the inner peace I was looking for in my life. I also lost weight and my marriage is much healthier and stronger too.
Keep in mind why you started in the first place.
Sometimes when we stop to reconnect with our why, we remember what was the motivating force behind starting in the first place.
For instance, when I started my YouTube channel, I started it as a way to provide uplifting content to deal with the COVID shutdown. I asked some of the life coaches in my network if they would like to share some insight on how to deal with the COVID shutdown. My goal was not to become a YouTube Influencer.
By always remembering why I started my channel it helps me to keep in perspective what I am doing it for so when I don’t get the likes, subscribers or comments I don’t have the desire to quit. I have stronger reason to keep going and that is like sprinkles on the cupcake. It also helps me to stay consistent in uploading my content. Whoever is looking for it, when they need it, can find it!
Remember that You Matter.
I think this one is the most important factor in all of this. You matter and your voice matters. Our experiences in life are not exclusively for you. It is for you to share the lessons you learned because of it.
When we take time to learn the lessons along our journey, they can become the missing pieces to someone else’s puzzle. When we allow the external sources of influence to stop us, we are saying subconsciously, that we do not matter and what we experience in life is irrelevant. That is one of the biggest lies we can say to ourselves. You matter, your opinions matter and someone is waiting for your message in the big beautiful world of ours.
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“Know the rules well, so you can break them effectively.” ― Dalai Lama XIV
Quora Question: How did you force yourself to stick to healthy habits?
The very first thing I did was determine what I wanted to create and then I set up rules that would protect my habit until it could “feed” itself.
For instance, when I started my walking habit, my main objective was to find peace during a chaotic period of my life. I had always enjoyed playing and being out in nature while I was growing up. I found peace and happiness so when I needed to find peace, I went back to the one thing I knew would give me that. A walk in the park. I never set out to become a “walker” it just felt right and natural. Nine years later, I still find peace and happiness out on the trails.
I would never encourage anyone to “force” themselves to do anything. I think the biggest success comes from knowing your why first and trusting the process as it unfolds. You can still set up “rules” like I will do two sit-ups during a commercial break, or I will drink water first thing in the morning, but these are ways to help you stay in alignment with your WHY.
Another influence that helps you stay on course is taking each day one step at a time. Start small and let the motivation of each win carry you forward. A few months into my walking journey, I started paying attention to the kinds of food I was eating. After a great walk, I didn’t want to ruin it by eating a burger and fries. I slowly added salads to my diet.
No one likes to be pushed around so why would you want to do that to yourself?
As humans, we are designed with “three chairmen”, the mind, body, and spirit connection. When they are in sync, you become unstoppable by simply deciding. Get clear about your WHY and opportunities to help you achieve your goal will pop up on your mental radar.
Here are some things to consider when implementing “rules”
If you know the rules, then you know how to break them too especially if we are the ones who made them in the first place. Rules serve a very important role when first establishing a new habit, but if they remain checked, they can also become the very thing that hinders your growth.
Consider rules like a baby’s crib, they serve to protect your habit but eventually we will outgrow them. It isn’t until you want to create or break a habit that you realize just how much our rules have an influence on our behavior.
Realize that with everything that is worthwhile in having, it needs time and space to cultivate. By adding this new habit, consider what you need to prepare for it to grow. For example, readers look for time to read even perhaps create a special corner or buy a special reading chair to ease their mind for reading mode.
What will help trigger your habit? Like I mentioned above, commercial breaks can be your trigger to do push-ups or sit-ups. This reminds me of the time when I was in the military, and we were preparing for an upcoming fitness test. Our commanders would post signs like “do 20 push-ups” on Post-It-Notes on their doors. If you entered their office, you had to do what was posted on the note. It made it kind of fun especially when the whole company was involved.
Keep it fun. Creating habits does not have to be forced. Get your family or friends involved to help you stay on track. Celebrate the wins and keep track of your progress. Seeing progress is another great way to keep you going.
Last and certainly not least, give yourself grace. The fact that you made the decision to change is the most important decision of all. Remember, if it was easy, everyone would do it!
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