Tag: my experience

  • All Present

    All Present

    I honestly think we can learn something new each day. The biggest challenge is usually staying present in the moment to notice.  I started getting out and reconnecting with friends.  What I often finding myself doing before we met up was worrying about what were going to say.  It’s at those moments when you have to tell that little voice inside to “be quiet.”  If you are present in the company of others, you can always find something to talk about.

    What does it mean to be present?  That’s always a great question when people ask me.  It’s giving the other person you undivided attention. I always like to define what it is by stating what it is not.  Let me give you some examples.  Being present is not worrying about what you could be doing with someone else. Being present is not scrolling through your phone when someone is sitting with you.  being present is not thinking about what you are going to do once you leave.  Being present is saying to the person you are with, that they are important enough to listen and let them be heard.

    Once I learned what it meant to be present, my marriage and all of my other relations greatly improved.  The power is in your hands. The one thing that is always in your control is yourself.

  • What’s Not Working Here?

    What’s Not Working Here?

    I love to read personal development books! What I have to pay close attention to is getting sucked up in do all of what the author is recommending.  Like so many things out there, these books are recommendation that the author has shared with the reader.  It’s their life, their research or their opinions.  You still have to put action behind your own purpose and dreams in order for them to come to fruition.

    I am a firm believer in personal development but I am also a firm believer in creating a life of your own design. I take bits and pieces of the knowledge I read, and use what works and discard what doesn’t.  Reading does expand your thought pattern but if your not careful, you’ll begin to live the life of the author and not your own.

    I would never not recommend reading, I just recommend paying attention to how the book is making you feel.  If its not helping you but stressing you out, step back, breathe and see what’s working and discard whats not.