Tag: personal development

My Way Mentality

When my children were younger, I took on many of the tasks of child rearing not considering what effect it had on my husband. There are many joys and frustrations that come with raising children. Many arguments usually started at times when I was tired and just didn’t know how to ask for help. I took too much on and wasn’t willing to share the load with my partner because I though it had to be done MY way. When people offer to help, let them. We get so caught of in the belief that if something is not done in a particular way, that it is wrong.

Of course at the time I didn’t know this. It is now, as a grandparent, that I realized that some of the frustration was self-induced. My husband loves taking care of our granddaughter. I can see how it has changed him and I know she absolutely loves to spend time with him.

Many people just want to know that they matter. By opening yourself up to receive help from others, you are allowing them to experience purpose and meaning in their life.

October 15, 2018
It’s Time to Donate

For many years I had adopted the habit of clearing out my closet in order to make room for the winter clothes by putting the summer clothes in storage bins and pulling out the the old winter clothes. I know this is a common practice for many of us. I would go out and buy extra hangers and hold onto clothes that no longer fit me, not to mention were out-dated. It was a habit I picked up watching my mother do for years.

It wasn’t until I realized that this practice was an old unconscionable belief that perpetuated from a scarcity mindset. I would justify holding on to things with the “just in case” mentality. I stated in “Seasons of Change“, we have to clear out some of our old thoughts and ideas in order to prepare for the new season. I still believe it’s true but what I would like to add is pay attention to your thoughts, feelings and actions. Awareness is the key. And if you ever find yourself thinking “I need to buy more hangers”, it just might mean it’s time to donate.

September 24, 2018
Hit The Light Switch

I have to say the most profound changes in my life happened when I decided to take my life off autopilot. I began to question some of the beliefs that I had held on to for years. In the beginning it was the small things that I began to ponder like why do I drink coffee with my breakfast, to eventually leading to my bigger questions, like how do I really feel about marriage. Some of the answers I received in return shocked me.

Awareness is the definitely key to change. Effective and long lasting change has to come from something deeper then just wanting it. Taking time out to understand the driving force, the “why” behind the change is what makes it really take hold. To me, awareness was like switching on a light switch and looking for the cobwebs within the room. What I found were old beliefs and outdated actions that no longer served their purpose. Imagine what you will find when you begin to look inside yourself. The answers just might surprise you.

September 10, 2018
Sharing is Caring

I started recording little videos and sharing tidbits of my story online because I read so many success books over the years. I realized that the best part of your learning is in sharing the knowledge you gain with others. For example when a woman buys a new dress and she gets a great deal on it, she will, like many other woman, she will tell you where she got it and more than likely, how much she paid for it. I do it!

Like the things we buy, holding on to it will not benefit anyone in the end. The more you share, the more knowledge we gain in return. It’s like creativity or oxygen, you simply can’t run out of it.

August 13, 2018
A Reflection

My grand baby will be turning two this year. The time has flown by and I have loved every moment I have had her in my care. Despite the fact that I usually have her four days out of a week , I make it a point to continue learning and taking each moment I have to myself for self-care. I make time to read, take walks, exercise and connect with loved ones.

What I have come to realize is that time passes whether I am out working or at home taking care of my granddaughter. Life is a reflection of our thinking, the decisions we make and the activity we choose to engage in. Take a moment to find out what’s important to you and schedule time for it. We either will find the time or simply make excuses.

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June 4, 2018
58 Minutes

I love walks in the park but this past winter I told my husband, “I am getting soft”. I just couldn’t handle walking in the cold anymore so I started going to the gym to walk on the treadmill. The maximum workout setting is 58 minutes. I would go in each morning, grab my hand towels, hit manual workout and start walking. One morning I was just watching the countdown timer, noticing the seconds turn into minutes over and over again. Then it hit me! I was spending 58 minutes walking on a treadmill. Those 58 minutes I would never get back again. In that moment, I realized every second of every minute is a gift.

We all have this one precious life to live. Take a moment, stop, breathe and enjoy it.

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May 21, 2018
What’s the Deal?

I have been making monthly payments to a company for a couple of months. A representative from the company called me about two months ago and asked if I would be interested in making a settlement payment that would “save me” money. I asked the gentleman if he could call back the following month and maybe we could go from there. The “discounted offer” was a welcomed surprise but I budgeted a set monthly payments until the debt was reconciled. The representative didn’t call back.

I receive a call this week from my representative buddy. This time I have plenty of time to consider and budget their “discounted offer” if it works well with my budget. He begins stating that according to his records, he was calling in the appropriate time frame to see if I was going to make a payment settlement or was I going to make a payment. I was waiting to hear his offer but he never clearly stated one. I told him I planned on making my usual payment. I never sought an offer so I don’t know why they are calling me (unless he just wants to hear my pleasant voice, I never get rude.)

The representative reminds me of times when I used to sell crafts. I never felt like I could never “close the deal”. I wanted to ask the representative, WHAT DO YOU WANT? That’s when I realized, I could not “close deals” because I never had clarity.

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May 14, 2018
What Do You See?

My yard does not have spectacular curbside appeal but my husband does maintain it. We do not spray chemicals to the kill dandelions. When my husband mentions spraying, I must admit I encourage him not to. I guess you would say I am kind of environmentally conscious and I try to pay attention to my environmental footprint. As I stated, I really don’t like using chemical lawn treatments but I respect those who do.

I remember growing up and running in large fields with lots of dandelions. I would gather them up and give them to my mother. She would smile and say how much she like them. I would also make wishes as I blew the dandelion seeds. When my granddaughter was over the other day, she picked the dandelions in my yard just as I did, oh how those precious memories came back.

Whether you spray or not is not the point. It is recognizing the precious gifts that the universe offers up in each day, and there are many. We can choose to look for the negative or the positive, it’s all up to you.

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May 7, 2018
A Day of Relaxation

I watch my granddaughter four days out of the week. On days I don’t have her, I try and make them my “Relaxation Days” but on most occasions, I get a feeling of restlessness.

One Monday afternoon, on a day I didn’t have Charli, I just couldn’t sit still. On most days, when I have “Charli Watch”, I start my day at 4 AM by listening to morning motivation videos on YouTube, do early morning stretches with Joanna Suh, and sit in mediation with Deepak Chopra and Oprah Winfrey. By 5:30 AM, I am off to the gym for a date with a treadmill. I make it back home with enough time to get my son up and off to school with a smoothie. My morning is like a well oiled machine.

My thinking days without Charli as “off days” , I feel I don’t have to put in work. I do not have to get up early and I do not have to put in the effort to take care of myself, I just want to “relax.” I finally realized at self-care isn’t work, it’s necessary to have a balanced and productive day, no matter what is on the schedule. So I will put in the work , maybe just not so early in the morning.

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April 30, 2018
Grandma Has Got You

I love watching my granddaughter learn new things. She watches my husband and I so closely that she can usually pick up and copy what we do rather quickly. The word fear has no meaning to her at the ripe age of 18 months. I take her to the park and let her climb the playground play set. She climbs and jumps and runs with the big kids. I follow and closely standby just in case she reaches out for help.

Just watching her play has taught me so much. Life is about enjoying the moment. I used to get caught up in thinking about past events or stressing over future ones that I missed the gift in being present. Life looks more vivid, more colorful when I stop and reflect on what is important at the moment. I don’t what to miss one smile, one laugh or one reach of my granddaughter’s hand. Vow to take time each day to reflect on what’s important, there is a gift to be seen.

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April 23, 2018