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  • The Fill Up

    The Fill Up

    When is enough, enough?  There is a such thing as being there to help your friends in times of need but when your friend no longer takes responsibility for the decisions that they make. Its okay to say “NO”.  It’s called self-care and there is nothing selfish about it.

    Many years ago I learned that so many of us are always ready to help others but fail to put the same kind of energy into helping ourselves.  We can’t pour out what we have not taken the time to pour into.  I like to think of ourselves as vehicles on this Earth. We zoom around running errands for our children, spouses, and friends.  As in life, we need to gas up the car in order to keep the car in motion.  The self-care that we do for ourselves is like going to the gas station for a fill up.  When we don take acre of the car, we run the risk of damaging the vehicle.  Everyone I know, hates to see the check engine light come on. That’s the same thing that our bodies are doing with headaches, backaches and other aches.

    Don’t wait for the check engine light to come on before you decide to take care of yourself.  You are just as important as your children, spouse and friends. We are given this one life to live. Make is your best life by taking care of yourself like you take care of your car.

  • It’s Time to Donate

    It’s Time to Donate

    For many years I had adopted the habit of clearing out my closet in order to make room for the winter clothes by putting the summer clothes in storage bins and pulling out the the old winter clothes. I know this is a common practice for many of us. I would go out and buy extra hangers and hold onto clothes that no longer fit me, not to mention were out-dated. It was a habit I picked up watching my mother do for years.

    It wasn’t until I realized that this practice was an old unconscionable belief that perpetuated from a scarcity mindset. I would justify holding on to things with the “just in case” mentality. I stated in “Seasons of Change“, we have to clear out some of our old thoughts and ideas in order to prepare for the new season. I still believe it’s true but what I would like to add is pay attention to your thoughts, feelings and actions. Awareness is the key. And if you ever find yourself thinking “I need to buy more hangers”, it just might mean it’s time to donate.

  • Playing Catch

    Playing Catch

    Today is the day I walk with a walking club.  I don’t compete but I do use other walkers as incentive to push myself.  In most cases, you look for a walker who is ahead of you and you make them your focal point.  Once I can find a target walker, I put my head down and focus on my walking technique and breathing.  With such focus, you can usually “walk them down” in other words, you can catch them.  I’ve been catch and I have caught others.

    I did not try and walk anyone down today. I started late so I just focused on my walking stride and breath. I did start to pass people.  After the walk was over, a gentleman can over and told me he looks for me on the trail.  I’ve seen this man on several occasions but we’ve never spoken to each other before.  He told me he had to let me know, he looks to try and stay ahead a head of me but he knows that I will pass him eventually.

    What I’ve found most beneficial is to not worry about who is behind you. Stay focused on whose ahead.  Its not about getting catch, its about making them reach.

  • Goal Analysis

    Goal Analysis

    Like so many people, I struggle with getting things done, especially if it makes me feel like work to me.  It’s a real struggle especially when I retired from the military years ago.  I battle with laziness.  I know if I can admit it, I am recognizing it, and ultimately I can change it. Like a cost analysis, I assess my productivity by conducting a goal analysis.  Its simple. Let me explain.

    On many occasions for instance, I love to run to my favorite book buying spot to browse the books. I use browsing loosely because I can always find something to buy.  I have many books at home, not to mention a library reading list that will definitely take time to read through. What I have to do for myself is redirect my impulse to run to the store towards something that will actually get me closer to creating a legacy for my family.  I know that just buying more books will not get me there.

    Awareness is the first key to conducting my analysis.  I ask myself this: “is what I want to do going to get me closer or father away from my goal?” If the answer is no, the next question is: “what action can I do right now, that will?” I realize it just a simple matter of redirecting my energy and focus into more productive activities that will get me closer to what I want to achieve in life rather than what I want to buy throughout life.

  • Sharing is Caring

    Sharing is Caring

    I started recording little videos and sharing tidbits of my story online because I read so many success books over the years. I realized that the best part of your learning is in sharing the knowledge you gain with others.  For example when a woman buys a new dress and she gets a great deal on it, she will, like many other woman, she will tell you where she got it and more than likely, how much she paid for it.  I do it!

    Like the things we buy, holding on to it will not benefit anyone in the end.  The more you share, the more knowledge we gain in return.  It’s like creativity or oxygen, you simply can’t run out of it.

  • Bible Study

    Bible Study

    I love learning something new. To me, it keeps life interesting.  My reading journey started about five years ago when I was going through a transitional period in my life. I never really had a desire for reading but at this particular time in my life I was looking for answers.  I started out reading spiritual books. When I would see the scriptures in the books I wanted to know if the Bible matched the context in which it was being used.  I guess you could call it “fact checking”.  I found myself  reading the Bible more and started to come to my own sense of understanding, my own Truth, of the parables.

    You never know where the journey will take you. Fast forward, two years later, as I began to work with a new direct selling company, I pondered who I could market my products to. My daughter had just had a baby and I was planning on watching my granddaughter when my daughter returned to work. The traditional networking avenues I was familiar with were no longer an option.  My creativity kicked in one day when a Jehovah Witness  stopped by to visit my home. They came to share their good news.  I thought to myself I could share mine too.  That one visit turned into several.  They visited with me for over six months.

    What I learned during those visits had to do more with how I interacted with others as we discussed a the hot topic of religion.  I learned its okay to not only agree or disagree, but to express myself without threatening someone else’s belief. We are all entitled to out opinions. Someone else’s belief does not diminish who you are.

  • Take That Step

    Take That Step

    I know I’ve talked about this topic before but I think its worth visiting again.  The kind of effective long lasting change comes with taking one step in a new direction and being committed enough to it until it becomes a habit.  It doesn’t matter the area that you want to change. For example, in relationships, choosing to say I’m sorry to another even if you feel they were wrong. It all comes down to evaluating how important, whatever it is that you want to change, is to you.

    My journey began with taking physical walks. I was so stressed out financially, the walks were relief. I just wanted to find some peace.  Six years later, I still walk and I still find peace. As my passion for walking continues to grow it helps in bring about change in other areas of my life.  Your journey may begin by reading a book, reading a scripture or riding a bike, no matter what it is, stay with it until it becomes a must.

  • Time To Let Go

    Time To Let Go

    My husband and I, went to  watch my son swear in to the Army this morning. We were planning to stay with him until he flew out to his training facility.

    There were many young people shipping out today.  The Military Processing Facility was packed with family and friends to see them off.  As the recruits names were called, they would be ushered into a room for the official swearing ceremony that enlisted them into their designated branch of service. There were so many recruits they had three swearing in ceremonies.  My son was in the last group to be sworn in.  As the room started to clear out, the recruits remained. Many family members were leaving. I just watched them interacting with each other. No one looked too nervous.  Many of the conversations I overheard were about how anxious they were to get to started at training.

    At that moment, before the swearing in ceremony, I told my husband that we could head on home after the ceremony.  There was no need for us to stay.  I realized that my son was no longer my little baby who needed his mom to walk him through this process. He was a young man starting a new chapter in HIS journey.  My husband smiled at me and said, “he’s going to be fine, it’s time to let him go.”

  • What’s Not Working Here?

    What’s Not Working Here?

    I love to read personal development books! What I have to pay close attention to is getting sucked up in do all of what the author is recommending.  Like so many things out there, these books are recommendation that the author has shared with the reader.  It’s their life, their research or their opinions.  You still have to put action behind your own purpose and dreams in order for them to come to fruition.

    I am a firm believer in personal development but I am also a firm believer in creating a life of your own design. I take bits and pieces of the knowledge I read, and use what works and discard what doesn’t.  Reading does expand your thought pattern but if your not careful, you’ll begin to live the life of the author and not your own.

    I would never not recommend reading, I just recommend paying attention to how the book is making you feel.  If its not helping you but stressing you out, step back, breathe and see what’s working and discard whats not.

  • Braving the Weather

    Braving the Weather

    I just made it back from my morning walk. It’s a cloudy morning which often makes me ponder just when will the rain pour down.  I debated on whether to go to the gym and walk the treadmill instead. I prefer a walk in the park over the treadmill any day.  I have gotten caught in the rain on several occasions in the past.

    I decided to go to the park to walk.  I felt a few rain drops falling. Definitely not enough for a wash out.  As I walked and I knew I was going to be able to get a complete walk in, I realized I could have let the dark clouds over head keep me from doing the one thing that I absolutely love.  In that very moment the clouds took on a whole new meaning.

    The clouds are like the fears in our mind. The fear of what others think or say.  Success comes when we chose not to let the clouds in our minds keep us from do what we love to do. Go all in and enjoy the walk!