“It is less about becoming a better person, and more of being better, as a person.” ― J.R. Rim
How can I be better for myself and my partner? – Quora
My relationships got better when I stopped trying to change my partner and focused on changing myself. My husband and I have been married now for fifteen years. I had been married twice before. This marriage was heading towards divorce too until I got an epiphany on a walk one day where I asked myself, “what has all of these marriages have in common?” The answer was ME!
I went from relationship to relationship never taking time out to figure out who I was. I was carrying baggage from one relationship to another without taking time to unpack from the last relationship.
This marriage would have ended too if I hadn’t learned that I can’t change others, the only person I have control over is myself.
I started reading books on spirituality to personal development, including books on personal relationships. I started asking myself questions like, “what or how have I contributed to the marriage breakdowns?” Looking back now, I realized, I really didn’t know what love was. Learning about self-care was an eye-opener!
During that time in my life, I started to learn more about what I liked and didn’t like. I learned about forgiveness not only for my ex-husbands but for myself. I learned that life is as good as our current mindset. Change your mindset and watch your life change too.
I would offer this advice, to be better for others, the journey to be better must begin from within you first. (I know it sounds backwards!)
Here’s are a few ideas I would like to offer:
- Learn about self-care is all about.
- Practice forgiveness with others and yourself
- Find out what triggers your emotions. Pay attention to what makes you mad, sad, happy, and peaceful. Don’t suppress then, feel them all.
- Read and learn. Focus on expanding your mind. Others have been where you are and can offer great insight or at least a different perspective on how to look at things.
- Extend grace to others as well as yourself. We are all doing the best we can with our current state of mind. One of my favorite quotes “When you know better, you do better.” -Maya Angelou.
I would like to close out with this, take time out to figure out who you are and what you like. If we don’t take time out to learn about ourselves, no one else will do it for us. Remember, when you change for the better, life will reflect that change back to you.
I also would love to learn more about who you are and what you do. Feel free to connect with me through a Meetup group.
- Confident Strides Women’s Empowerment Network https://bit.ly/CSWENMeetup
- Confident Strides Personal Development Network Group https://bit.ly/CSPDNMeetup
- Confident Strides Women’s Professional Network https://bit.ly/CSWPNMeetup
Quote Source: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/better-person
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