Tag: self development

  • Transformation Time: How to Become Smarter, More Creative, and Productive

    Transformation Time: How to Become Smarter, More Creative, and Productive

    “Let your creative and imaginative mind run freely; it will take you places you never dreamed of and provide breakthroughs that others once thought were impossible.” ― Idowu Koyenikan

    How can one become smarter, more creative, productive, and intelligent during a lockdown?-Quora

    Depending on the lens you to look through, a lockdown can be like the metamorphosis of a caterpillar to a butterfly. We have the time to learn more about who we are and what we want, if you choose to.  

    As with any time we deal with change, we may look fantastic from the outside, but the transformation from within feels gruesome deep inside. That’s because we don’t have the distractions that we are accustomed to. We don’t have the availability to run from our decisions.  We are forced to face reality head on. Unlike the caterpillar, we have the choice to use this time to transform into a butterfly.

    During the lockdown, use this time to read, draw and rediscover dormant skills and talents that we have put to the side.  Creativity is not just for a select few, we all have a creative muscle in our body that just needs to be exercised more.  It’s like sleeping in a certain position for so long that our creativity fell asleep. That numbness will eventually dissipate. 

    Life doesn’t stop during a lockdown; it must be looked at from a different angle. 

    Suggestions on how to become smarter, more creative, and productive:

    • Ask yourself what have you been putting off or too busy to do? Have you been wanted to read or exercise more?  There are tons of internet sites where you can download e-books. Many trainers now offer online training programs.
    • Boost your immune system by enjoying nature. It’s doesn’t cost a thing to go for a walk.
      • Walking also is a great way to relieve stress and relax your mind. If your mind is relaxed, it’s easier to gain clarity. With clarity, you can focus more on what’s important therefor making you more productive.
      • Walking is also a great way to let you mind explore ideas which gives you more creativity in solving problems.
    • Use the downtime to write or journal. Explore what is coming up for you during this lockdown. Perhaps you’ll have enough material to write a book or publish a blog.
    • Remember: Creativity can’t be used up, the more you use it the more you gain.
    • One last thing you can do is, use your smart devices to reach out and talk with people.  Replace a text or an email with a phone call.  This helps you to realize that you are not alone, and you perhaps may make a new friend which you can visit once the world opens back up.

    The lockdown may pose a physical limitation, but your imagination/creativity is limitless! 

    For more information on how a butterfly transforms https://www.zmescience.com/ecology/animals-ecology/how-caterpillar-turn-butterfly-0534534/

    Quote Source: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/transformation

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  • Cheers to a 30 Day Habit Run: How to Implement a New Habit

    Cheers to a 30 Day Habit Run: How to Implement a New Habit

    “Change might not be fast and it isn’t always easy. But with time and effort, almost any habit can be reshaped.” ― Charles Duhigg

    How can we go 30 days with a new habit we want to make without interruption? – Quora

    We commonly think we need to “add” a new habit but in truth we are looking to make a change in lifestyle.  To implement change in your life, think about not only adding, but also consider, eliminating an old habit or modifying a current one. A moment of reflection always helps to implement and maintain a new habit or lifestyle change. 

    To implement change, begin by asking yourself questions like:

    1. Why do I want to do this? Keep the answer in front of you. If you know why you want to do something, it will give to you the motivation to keep going. 
    2. What’s the benefit of adding this habit to my life? I don’t like walking in the cold, but I love the clarity and the peace it brings. The benefits sometimes outweigh the effort. 
    3. What would happen if I gave up on myself and my dream or goal? The pain of regret can provide motivation.
    4. How will you feel? You are the only one who makes and breaks the rules. If you interrupt the habit, don’t beat yourself up. Give yourself grace. The biggest thing to celebrate is starting in the first place. 

    Here are a few suggestions you can do to help:

    1. Check off the days you complete the new habit. It’s called “a Streak” or “Don’t Break the Chain”. It’s amazing how great you feel in keeping you habit and checking it off on your calendar is physical proof.
    2. Buddy up with someone. I wanted to hit a goal in December, I partnered with someone who also had a goal they want to hit, and we held each other accountable.
    3. Set a daily reminder. Use your smart devices as assistants.
    4. Write about it. Journal your experience.

     I wish everyone a successful lifestyle changes in the coming year!

    Quote Source: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/habits

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  • How To Be Productive in 2022: Conduct a Year End Review First

    How To Be Productive in 2022: Conduct a Year End Review First

    “Consider everything an experiment.” ― Corita Kent

    What my military experience has taught me is valuable even after retirement.

    How can one be productive? -Quora

    As this year ends, I think it’s an excellent time to reflect on just how far we have come.  We focus so much on what we want to achieve that perhaps we don’t stop and realize that we are not the same person we were when the year started. There has been people and experiences that have changed us either for the good or the bad.  This is the time to reflect and see if what you are aiming for is still relevant. Do we need to readjust and realign our priorities?  Do we still feel the same way about these things?

     In the military, we would call this time for reflection an After-Action Review or AAR for short.  This is when we would sit down and ask the participants what their experience was. Did we hit our objective?  Where did we come up short and what did we do right? What did you learn? To know is you are productive, you first need to know what the goal was that you were aiming for. 

    What is your target?

    We can apply an AAR to weekly, monthly or year end events.  Did you hit your weekly, monthly, or year-end goal? What did we come up short on and what did we do right?  What have we learned? By taking time to see what worked and what didn’t we can now adjust our aim.

    Being productive is only relevant in the terms to what you want to achieve and the kind of life you want to live.

    1. Write down your dreams and goals. You can’t hit what you can’t see.
    2. Evaluate the activity you engage in daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly. Are they in alignment with your core beliefs? Are they taking you to or away from your goals?
    3. Reflect on what is working and what is not. Conduct an After-Action Review.
    4. Adjust your aim and keep moving.

    For 2022 to be productive for you, take a moment of reflection and see what your core values and beliefs are. Then you will know what kind of activities you need to incorporate or eliminate.

    Quote Source: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/productivity

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  • Goal Analysis

    Goal Analysis

    Like so many people, I struggle with getting things done, especially if it makes me feel like work to me.  It’s a real struggle especially when I retired from the military years ago.  I battle with laziness.  I know if I can admit it, I am recognizing it, and ultimately I can change it. Like a cost analysis, I assess my productivity by conducting a goal analysis.  Its simple. Let me explain.

    On many occasions for instance, I love to run to my favorite book buying spot to browse the books. I use browsing loosely because I can always find something to buy.  I have many books at home, not to mention a library reading list that will definitely take time to read through. What I have to do for myself is redirect my impulse to run to the store towards something that will actually get me closer to creating a legacy for my family.  I know that just buying more books will not get me there.

    Awareness is the first key to conducting my analysis.  I ask myself this: “is what I want to do going to get me closer or father away from my goal?” If the answer is no, the next question is: “what action can I do right now, that will?” I realize it just a simple matter of redirecting my energy and focus into more productive activities that will get me closer to what I want to achieve in life rather than what I want to buy throughout life.

  • A Reflection

    A Reflection

    mirrorMy grand baby will be turning two this year. The time has flown by and I have loved every moment I have had her in my care.  Despite the fact that I usually have her four days out of a week , I make it a point to continue learning and taking each moment I have to myself for self-care. I make time to read, take walks, exercise and connect with loved ones.

    What I have come to realize is that time passes whether I am out working or at home taking care of my granddaughter.   Life is a reflection of our thinking, the decisions we make and the activity we choose to engage in. Take a moment to find out what’s important to you and schedule time for it.  We either will find the time or simply make excuses.

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  • A Day of Relaxation

    A Day of Relaxation

    o-RELAX-SLEEP-facebookI watch my granddaughter four days out of the week.  On days I don’t have her, I try and make them my “Relaxation Days” but on most occasions, I get a feeling of restlessness.

    One Monday afternoon, on a day I didn’t have Charli, I just couldn’t sit still.  On most days, when I have “Charli Watch”, I start my day at 4 AM by listening to morning motivation videos on YouTube, do early morning stretches with Joanna Suh, and sit in mediation with Deepak Chopra and Oprah Winfrey.  By 5:30 AM, I am off to the gym for a date with a treadmill.  I make it back home with enough time to get my son up and off to school with a smoothie.  My morning is like a well oiled machine.

    My thinking days without Charli as “off days” , I feel I don’t have to put in work. I do not have to get up early and I do not have to put in the effort to take care of myself, I just want to “relax.”  I finally realized at self-care isn’t work, it’s necessary to have a balanced and productive day, no matter what is on the schedule. So I will put in the work , maybe just not so early in the morning.

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  • You’re a Natural

    You’re a Natural

    manhattan-diamond-serviceFor years I stuck to the axiom of “fake it till you make it”, but unless you know what you like and what brings true meaning to your life, you could end up faking it forever. Choose to take time out and discover the true authentic person you are within. Be willing to let go of the old thoughts, ideas and beliefs that have been passed on to you by others. When you discover your true self, you will no longer desire to be a cubic zirconia because know you ARE a natural diamond.

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  • On Your Terms

    On Your Terms

    life-on-your-terms-1024x680Quite often we put a hold on our dreams based on the conversation that someone may have said to you that “you can’t do that.” When you hear that phrase “you can’t” it actually means “they can’t” and that is true. Only you can do you with the gifts and talents that are within you. Develop those talents and gifts in order to live the best possible life for you on your terms, not by someone else’s.

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  • Cultivate Creativity

    Cultivate Creativity

    Do you know that no one has a monopoly on creativity? No one can use up their creativity. Everyone has it and it can be amplified if you choose to incorporate activities that will enhance it. It only takes one creative idea for you to have the success you desire. I would often hear people say when I was a vendor at craft shows, “I wish I was creative” and my reply was, “You are. You just haven’t realized it yet.” Take time to cultivate your creativity.

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