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Confident Strides: The Podcast — Episode 1: Embracing Presence: Lessons from the Shore
Episode Summary

Confident Strides: The Podcast invites listeners to think about the value of attendance over perfection. This episode shares a personal story at Fort Ord State Beach. It explores how focusing on capturing moments can distract us. This distraction can prevent us from truly experiencing them. It highlights the importance of letting go, being existing, and finding confidence in the unpredictability of life’s waves.

Show Notes

In this episode, we walk through:
- A full-circle moment years in the making
- The tension between capturing a moment and living it
- What the ocean teaches about timing, release, and acceptance
- How presence builds confidence in unexpected ways
- Why perfectionism often robs us of the very peace we’re seeking
Key themes:
- Presence over perfection
- Letting go of control
- Mindful movement
- Personal growth in motion
- Nature as a teacher
Favorite Moment

“The waves come when they come. The peace is in being there when they do.”

Transcript

Tonia Tyler (00:00)
Welcome to Confidence Tries, the podcast. Quiet moments, powerful insights, a space to walk, reflect, and grow.

Speaker (00:10)
So picture this. I’m standing on this wide, quiet beach, phone in hand, just totally determined to snap the perfect wave. But every single time, I thought, this is it. The moment slipped right past me. I couldn’t help but laugh at myself after the third missed shot. That’s happened to me too, and it’s so frustrating. There’s that urge to capture something amazing. But while you’re busy fiddling with your phone,

the thing you wanted to catch is already gone. It’s like you’re so focused on preserving the perfect memory, you end up missing out on actually experiencing it. Exactly. And then it hit me, how many of those moments have I let pass by? Just because I was too wrapped up in trying to control them, life’s got this wild way of rolling on, like those waves, whether we’re ready or not. What surprised me most is how much calmer things feel when you just let go of trying to capture it all. I mean,

You stop chasing the perfect timing and just soak up what’s right in front of you, even if it’s messy or unpredictable. Totally. When I finally lowered my phone and just watched, it was this totally different experience. There was this one wave, tall and golden in the late sun. And for once I just took it in. No photo, no proof, just memory. Moments like that stick with you, don’t they? It almost feels freeing, not needing to hold on to everything or get every detail right.

You get this sense of peace from just being present, even if you’re not capturing it for later. Yeah, and it makes me wonder how often we mistake control for confidence, if I can just get the shot or plan the outcome, then maybe everything will feel secure. But really, it’s the letting go where the real confidence is. Funny you say that, because every time I’ve tried to force things to go my way, it never quite works out. But when I just show up and let things unfold,

That’s when I actually feel grounded. It’s a totally different kind of trust. One that’s about being present, not perfect. That actually reminds me how important it is to walk at your own pace. The ocean’s not rushing for anyone, and neither should we. There’s this quiet strength in just moving forward. Even if it doesn’t look picture perfect. Absolutely, and I think sometimes we need those reminders. You can’t control the waves, but you can choose to be there, fully.

for whatever comes. That’s how real confidence grows step by step, right where you are.

Tonia Tyler (02:41)
Your path, your pace, your confidence.

Reflection Prompt

Where in your life are you trying so hard to capture the perfect moment that you’re missing the one right in front of you?

By Tonia Tyler | #ConfidentStrides | Sweet N Social
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November 17, 2025
How to Discover Life-Changing Power Through 7 Simple Daily Reflection Exercises – Week 5

(Week 5 — Simplify Your Goals)

A Gentle Shift in Focus

Somewhere along the way, we started equating “busy” with “purposeful.”

Lately, I’ve been asking myself a question. What if the goal isn’t to do more? What if we aim to do less with greater meaning?

During my walk today, I thought about how easily we overload our lists. We often stretch our energy across too many things.

When everything is a priority, nothing truly is.

So I stopped mid-step, looked at the path ahead, and asked: What’s the one thing that really matters today?

The answer was quiet but clear.

What Simplicity Taught Me Today

Simplifying your goals doesn’t mean lowering your standards. It doesn’t mean limiting your dreams. It means focusing your energy where it counts.

When we strip away distractions, our true goals become clear. These are the goals aligned with our values. They are the ones that move us ahead with peace instead of pressure.

Every big achievement is built on simple, intentional steps.

The goal is progress, not perfection — direction, not speed.

Reflection Prompt

Look at your current goals — personal, professional, or spiritual.
What feels heavy or forced?

Now ask: Which one goal aligns with my peace, not just my productivity?

Focus on that for the week ahead and notice how your energy shifts.

Keep Walking

Next, we’ll explore how simplicity creates space for inspiration and new ideas in Day 6 — Simplicity Sparks Creativity.

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Author’s Note

Written during a midday walk when the to-do list felt endless — until I remembered peace has its own priorities.

#ConfidentStrides | #SweetNSocial | Written by Tonia Tyler

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November 5, 2025
How to Discover Life-Changing Power Through 7 Simple Daily Reflection Exercises – Week 4

(Week 4 — Letting Go with Grace)

A Moment of Release

The trees outside my window are starting to change again.

One leaf, then another, letting go without resistance — no fight, no regret, just rhythm.

It made me wonder: what would it look like to release my own “leaves” that no longer serve me?
An outdated routine, a worn-out worry, or maybe even the need to hold everything together.

We spend so much energy clutching the familiar. This happens even when it’s no longer fruitful. We forget how freeing release can be.

What Simplicity Taught Me Today

Letting go isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom.

It’s the quiet strength of knowing when something has run its course. It is trusting yourself enough to move ahead without it.

Grace comes when we stop labeling release as loss. We can start seeing it as space. It is space for peace, creativity, or the next version of who we’re becoming.

The truth is, simplicity often begins not by adding something new, but by releasing what no longer fits.

Reflection Prompt

What are you still carrying that’s weighing you down — mentally, emotionally, or physically?

Take a deep breath. Picture yourself setting it down, even just for a moment.

Notice how your body feels when you do.

Sometimes the first step to peace is permission to let go.

Keep Walking

Next, we’ll explore how simplicity helps you refine your focus. It helps you realign your goals in Day 5 — Simplify Your Goals.

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Author’s Note

Written after watching leaves fall outside my window — a reminder that nature doesn’t rush or resist its seasons. It simply lets go.

#ConfidentStrides | #SweetNSocial | Written by Tonia Tyler

Before You Go

Before you go, you’re invited to take the free Kahoot! Self Study, Interactive Reflection Quiz inspired by today’s post.

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October 29, 2025
How to Discover Life-Changing Power Through 7 Simple Daily Reflection Exercises – Week 3

(Week 3 — Declutter Your Space, Calm Your Mind)

A Gentle Observation

I used to think I needed a new space to feel renewed.

This week reminded me of something important. Sometimes the space needs me. It requires my attention, my intention, and my willingness to start.

As I cleared a small corner of my desk today, something surprising happened:
my mind quieted.

The more I moved unnecessary things aside, the more my thoughts seemed to fall into order too.
It wasn’t about tidying for perfection — it was about making room for peace.

What Simplicity Taught Me Today

Our outer environment often mirrors our inner one.

When things feel crowded or chaotic around us, it can be a signal to pause and reset within.

Decluttering doesn’t always mean deep cleaning or major projects.

Sometimes it’s just putting away what’s out of place — or releasing what no longer supports who we’re becoming.

A calm space is an act of self-respect.
It says, “I deserve room to think, breathe, and create.”

Reflection Prompt

Look around the space you’re in right now.

What one small thing could you clear, organize, or release that would make it feel lighter?

As you do, notice how your energy shifts — even slightly.

Physical order often invites mental ease.

Keep Walking

Next, we’ll explore how to make room emotionally in Day 4 — Letting Go with Grace.

Author’s Note

I wrote this after clearing a corner of my workspace. I realized peace doesn’t always arrive. Sometimes, we make space for it.

#ConfidentStrides | #SweetNSocial | Written by Tonia Tyler

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Before You Go

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October 22, 2025
How to Discover Life-Changing Power Through 7 Simple Daily Reflection Exercises – Week 2

(Week 2 — Clearing Mental Clutter)

Cabo San Lucas

A Still Moment

During today’s walk, my mind was louder than the world around me.

Lists. Plans. What-ifs. All of it looping like static.

Then a breeze brushed across my face, and in that instant, everything paused.

I couldn’t feel the wind and worry at the same time.

That tiny interruption reminded me that peace doesn’t always need perfect circumstances—just a little space to notice the now.

What Simplicity Taught Me Today

Mental clutter doesn’t disappear because we “think harder.”

It softens when we stop long enough to see what truly needs our attention.

Sometimes, the act of stopping and processing reveals that what we thought was urgent… isn’t.

And what truly matters has been waiting quietly beneath the noise.

Clearing space isn’t only about silencing thoughts. It’s about sorting them. It’s about seeing what belongs. It’s also about letting the rest drift away.

Sometimes that means stepping outside, closing your eyes, and letting the air do its quiet work.

Reflection Prompt

Where does your mind feel most crowded right now—your schedule, your emotions, or your to-do list?

Pause and ask yourself: What really needs my attention right now?

Write it down or speak it out loud, and let the wind have the rest.

Keep Walking

Next, we’ll explore how outer order supports inner calm in Day 3 — Declutter Your Space, Calm Your Mind.

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Author’s Note

Written after a breezy morning walk. Silence spoke louder than thought. Clarity came from realizing what actually mattered.

#ConfidentStrides | #SweetNSocial | Written by Tonia Tyler

Before You Go

You’re invited to take the free Kahoot! Self Study, Interactive Reflection Quiz inspired by today’s post.

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October 15, 2025
How to Discover Life-Changing Power Through 7 Simple Daily Reflection Exercises – Week 1

(Week 1 — The Power of Simple Starts)

A Quiet Realization

Some mornings, I wake up already three steps ahead of myself — thinking, planning, managing.
Today I caught that pattern and decided to do something radically simple: I walked.

No playlist. No timer. Just footsteps, breath, and the slow unraveling of my thoughts.
By the time I rounded the corner back home, I realized I didn’t need to plan peace. I only needed to make space for it.

What Simplicity Taught Me Today

We spend so much time trying to design perfect beginnings that we forget beginnings only need to start. A single, unpolished action is often what opens the door to momentum.

Simplicity doesn’t shrink us — it centers us.
It turns effort into ease, and motion into meaning.

Reflection Prompt

What’s one area of your life that’s waiting for a simple start?

Don’t over-engineer it — just choose the next smallest step you can take today.

It might be a ten-minute walk, clearing one counter, or sitting quietly before you scroll.

Take that step, breathe, and notice how it feels to move without the pressure of perfect.

Keep Walking

Join us as we’ll continue with Day 2 — Clearing Mental Clutter.

Bring your curiosity, a journal if you’d like, and a few quiet minutes to think.

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Author’s Note

Written after a sunrise walk, when the air was still cool and the world felt uncomplicated. Sometimes peace just needs permission to arrive.

#ConfidentStrides | #SweetNSocial | Written by Tonia Tyler

Before You Go

Before you go, you’re invited to take the free Kahoot! Self Study, Interactive Reflection Quiz inspired by today’s post.

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October 8, 2025
How to Discover Life-Changing Power Through 7 Simple Daily Reflection Exercises

(Day 0 — Setting the Intention)

From trip to Monterey, California

A Gentle Beginning

There’s something about this season of life that keeps whispering the same word to me: simple.
Not smaller. Not less. Just simple.

Maybe it’s because I’ve spent years building, creating, and juggling. Somewhere along the way, I realized that even good things can get heavy. Or maybe it’s because walking has become my reminder that peace often hides in the pauses we resist taking.

Whatever the reason, I felt a quiet nudge. I wanted to explore what happens when I stop complicating what’s already working. The goal is to strip things down to their honest rhythm.

Why This Journey

So I’m beginning a seven-day journey I’m calling “Simplicity is Powerful.”

Each day, I’ll share a short reflection. It is a moment from my walk or a thought that surfaced. It is also a truth that asked to be noticed. After this, I’ll offer a gentle prompt for you to try if it speaks to you.

This isn’t a program or a checklist.
It’s a walk.

Some days, it might just be to take deep breaths.
Others challenge you to release something that no longer fits.

All I ask is that you bring curiosity and kindness to yourself.

A Simple Truth

The more I slow down, the more I see:

Simplicity isn’t about doing less — it’s about doing what matters with more peace.

Are you ready to walk this out with me? Let’s start together this Wednesday with Day 1 — The Power of Simple Starts.

Walking trail in Tacoma, Washington

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A short, mindful experience inspired by the “Simplicity is Powerful” series.

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Author’s Notes

Written during my morning walk, between the rustle of leaves and the rhythm of my breath.
Each step reminded me that clarity doesn’t come from control — it comes from motion.

#ConfidentStrides | #SweetNSocial | Written by Tonia Tyler

October 5, 2025