I finally found the language for how I work.
For a long time, I felt slightly out of step with how marketing and visibility are often talked about.
Not because I didn’t understand the advice.
I did.
Post more.
Be consistent.
Stay visible.
Push your message ahead.
I followed those rules when I needed to. I learned them. I respected them.
But something about them never settled in my body.
It wasn’t resistance.
It was misalignment.
Recently, I realized I didn’t lack discipline or clarity — I lacked language.
Now I have it.
I work in pull energy, not push energy.
I prefer to choose when I engage, and I prefer to create in ways that allow others to choose too. I like content people seek out intentionally, not content that arrives uninvited. I trust resonance more than reach. Presence more than pressure.
This shows up everywhere in how I move:
- I gravitate toward platform-based writing rather than inbox delivery
- I use text and silence instead of talking to the camera
- I walk ideas into clarity rather than forcing output
- I create slowly, letting things find their moment
For a long time, I questioned this.
Was I avoiding growth?
Resisting sales?
Making things harder than necessary?
What I see now is simpler.
Push strategies aren’t wrong — they’re just more visible.
They dominate conversations because they’re louder, easier to measure, and faster to scale. That doesn’t make them universal. It just makes them familiar.
Pull energy exists too.
It’s quieter.
It responds instead of initiates.
And because it doesn’t shout, it often goes unnamed.
The more I sat with this, the more it reminded me of how growth works in nature.
An acorn doesn’t push itself into becoming an oak tree.
It doesn’t announce its growth or force its timing.
It holds everything it needs — and pulls what’s required from its environment when the conditions are right.
That’s how I work.
This isn’t a rejection of marketing.
It’s an understanding of self.
Finding language for this hasn’t changed how I move — it’s helped me trust how I already do.
Like an acorn, I trust what’s already inside me to know how to grow
Reflection Prompt
Where in your work or life are you pushing simply because it’s visible? What shift if you trusted a quieter, more natural way of growing?
Author’s Note
This reflection came from noticing my own resistance — not to marketing itself, but to how loudly it’s often framed.
Writing this helped me realize something important. I wasn’t doing anything wrong. I was simply working in a way that aligns with my nature. Naming that brought relief, clarity, and a deeper trust in my rhythm.
I’m sharing it here for anyone who has felt similar but didn’t yet have the words.
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By Tonia Tyler | #ConfidentStrides | Sweet N Social
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