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  • Confident Strides: The Podcast — Episode 1: Embracing Presence: Lessons from the Shore

    Confident Strides: The Podcast — Episode 1: Embracing Presence: Lessons from the Shore

    Episode Summary

    Confident Strides: The Podcast invites listeners to think about the value of attendance over perfection. This episode shares a personal story at Fort Ord State Beach. It explores how focusing on capturing moments can distract us. This distraction can prevent us from truly experiencing them. It highlights the importance of letting go, being existing, and finding confidence in the unpredictability of life’s waves.

    Show Notes

    In this episode, we walk through:

    • A full-circle moment years in the making
    • The tension between capturing a moment and living it
    • What the ocean teaches about timing, release, and acceptance
    • How presence builds confidence in unexpected ways
    • Why perfectionism often robs us of the very peace we’re seeking

    Key themes:

    • Presence over perfection
    • Letting go of control
    • Mindful movement
    • Personal growth in motion
    • Nature as a teacher

    Favorite Moment

    “The waves come when they come. The peace is in being there when they do.”

    Transcript

    Tonia Tyler (00:00)
    Welcome to Confidence Tries, the podcast. Quiet moments, powerful insights, a space to walk, reflect, and grow.

    Speaker (00:10)
    So picture this. I’m standing on this wide, quiet beach, phone in hand, just totally determined to snap the perfect wave. But every single time, I thought, this is it. The moment slipped right past me. I couldn’t help but laugh at myself after the third missed shot. That’s happened to me too, and it’s so frustrating. There’s that urge to capture something amazing. But while you’re busy fiddling with your phone,

    the thing you wanted to catch is already gone. It’s like you’re so focused on preserving the perfect memory, you end up missing out on actually experiencing it. Exactly. And then it hit me, how many of those moments have I let pass by? Just because I was too wrapped up in trying to control them, life’s got this wild way of rolling on, like those waves, whether we’re ready or not. What surprised me most is how much calmer things feel when you just let go of trying to capture it all. I mean,

    You stop chasing the perfect timing and just soak up what’s right in front of you, even if it’s messy or unpredictable. Totally. When I finally lowered my phone and just watched, it was this totally different experience. There was this one wave, tall and golden in the late sun. And for once I just took it in. No photo, no proof, just memory. Moments like that stick with you, don’t they? It almost feels freeing, not needing to hold on to everything or get every detail right.

    You get this sense of peace from just being present, even if you’re not capturing it for later. Yeah, and it makes me wonder how often we mistake control for confidence, if I can just get the shot or plan the outcome, then maybe everything will feel secure. But really, it’s the letting go where the real confidence is. Funny you say that, because every time I’ve tried to force things to go my way, it never quite works out. But when I just show up and let things unfold,

    That’s when I actually feel grounded. It’s a totally different kind of trust. One that’s about being present, not perfect. That actually reminds me how important it is to walk at your own pace. The ocean’s not rushing for anyone, and neither should we. There’s this quiet strength in just moving forward. Even if it doesn’t look picture perfect. Absolutely, and I think sometimes we need those reminders. You can’t control the waves, but you can choose to be there, fully.

    for whatever comes. That’s how real confidence grows step by step, right where you are.

    Tonia Tyler (02:41)
    Your path, your pace, your confidence.

    Reflection Prompt

    Where in your life are you trying so hard to capture the perfect moment that you’re missing the one right in front of you?

    By Tonia Tyler | #ConfidentStrides | Sweet N Social

  • Where Hesitation Meets Peace: A Walk in Muir Woods

    Where Hesitation Meets Peace: A Walk in Muir Woods

    I hadn’t planned on visiting Muir Woods that morning.

    I fed the dogs and ensured the house was in good shape. I checked my GPS on a whim. It was only about an hour away. I thought, why not? and decided to make the drive.

    To reach the park, you have to travel down a narrow, winding road for about four miles. The morning was blanketed in fog, and each curve felt a little eerie — beautiful, but unsettling. When I finally reached the bottom and pulled up to the entrance, I realized I had no signal. The park ranger explained that I needed a parking reservation. I would have to drive back up those same four miles to make one.

    So up I went again, through the same twists and turns. For a moment, I thought about not going through with it. The fog, the quiet, and those sharp curves made me nervous. But something in me said, you’ve come this far — follow through.

    At the top, I finally got a signal, made my reservation, and started back down. This time, the fog began to lift. Light filtered through the trees, and what had felt intimidating just minutes earlier now looked peaceful — almost welcoming.

    When I arrived, I parked and stood there for a moment, still unsure if I could handle the trail. Then I saw another woman moving gracefully along in her motorized scooter, smiling and taking in the view. That was all the reassurance I needed. If she could explore, I could walk.

    So I did. I walked about a mile into the forest, surrounded by redwoods that stretched higher than my thoughts. The air was cool and damp — that clean kind of damp with a hint of pine. I stood still, breathing it all in — grateful I hadn’t talked myself out of the experience.

    And crossing the Golden Gate Bridge to get there? That was its own quiet gift — a reminder that sometimes courage starts with a single, spontaneous yes.

    Reflection Prompt:

    When life asks you to travel the same winding road twice, what helps you keep going?

    And who reminds you — even without words — that you’re more capable than you think?

    Author’s Note:

    This reflection began as a spontaneous voice note during a California housesit. That winding road — and the woman in the scooter — reminded me that courage is often quiet. Keeping through isn’t about perfection; it’s about presence. Even when the fog hides the view, steady steps still lead to clarity.

    By Tonia Tyler | #ConfidentStrides | Sweet N Social

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    Want to listen to the mini-conversation this reflection?

    Listen here:https://confidentstridespodcast.com/?p=158

  • When a Home Breathes Easy: The Quiet Art of House-Sitting Well

    When a Home Breathes Easy: The Quiet Art of House-Sitting Well

    House-sitting has its own quiet language — one that doesn’t use words at all.

    You won’t always know how well you’re doing by the checklist alone. Sure, the plants are watered, the floors are clean, the alarm is set, and the mail is tucked neatly away. But the real signs? They show up in the energy of the home and the comfort of the animals who live there.

    In one home, I walked into a warm library space. The dog was curled up, fast asleep. It seemed to have not a single worry in the world. The chair sat untouched, the lamp glowed gently, and the room felt “held.” A calm settles into a home when you respect it. There is an ease that tells you your presence isn’t a disruption but a continuation of care.

    In another home, two big fluffy dogs stretched out beside me on the porch. Each rested in their own way. One was snoozing. The other watched the yard like a gentle guard. They didn’t hover. They didn’t pace. They didn’t look for anyone else. They simply settled. That’s trust. That’s safety. That’s companionship.

    And that’s the real work of house-sitting.

    It’s not just feeding bowls and refilling water.

    It’s not just sticking to routines.

    It’s not just watching the house.

    It’s creating an atmosphere where the animals stay themselves — relaxed, peaceful, unbothered.

    It’s honoring the home in a way that keeps its rhythm steady while the owners are away.

    To me, that’s the highest compliment:

    When the dogs sleep deeply.

    When they choose to sit next to me, not out of anxiety but out of ease.

    When the house feels the same way it did before the owners left — only with a little extra warmth.

    These quiet moments remind me that service doesn’t always announce itself. Sometimes, it looks like two dogs resting on a wooden deck. Sometimes, it looks like a cozy room still holding its peace.

    Sometimes, it looks like everything just… breathing.

    Reflection Prompt: Where in your own life does quiet, consistent care speak louder than words?

    Author’s Note

    This reflection comes from the quiet moments I’ve experienced while house-sitting. These moments often go unnoticed. They speak volumes about connection, trust, and the energy we bring into someone else’s space.

    House-sitting has taught me that service isn’t loud; it’s steady. It’s the kind of care that leaves a home and its animals feeling safe, seen, and respected. These experiences continue to shape how I move through the world — with intention, gentleness, and gratitude.

    By Tonia Tyler | #ConfidentStrides | Sweet N Social

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  • How to Discover Life-Changing Power Through 7 Simple Daily Reflection Exercises – Week 4

    How to Discover Life-Changing Power Through 7 Simple Daily Reflection Exercises – Week 4

    (Week 4 — Letting Go with Grace)

    A Moment of Release

    The trees outside my window are starting to change again.

    One leaf, then another, letting go without resistance — no fight, no regret, just rhythm.

    It made me wonder: what would it look like to release my own “leaves” that no longer serve me?
    An outdated routine, a worn-out worry, or maybe even the need to hold everything together.

    We spend so much energy clutching the familiar. This happens even when it’s no longer fruitful. We forget how freeing release can be.

    What Simplicity Taught Me Today

    Letting go isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom.

    It’s the quiet strength of knowing when something has run its course. It is trusting yourself enough to move ahead without it.

    Grace comes when we stop labeling release as loss. We can start seeing it as space. It is space for peace, creativity, or the next version of who we’re becoming.

    The truth is, simplicity often begins not by adding something new, but by releasing what no longer fits.

    Reflection Prompt

    What are you still carrying that’s weighing you down — mentally, emotionally, or physically?

    Take a deep breath. Picture yourself setting it down, even just for a moment.

    Notice how your body feels when you do.

    Sometimes the first step to peace is permission to let go.

    Keep Walking

    Next, we’ll explore how simplicity helps you refine your focus. It helps you realign your goals in Day 5 — Simplify Your Goals.

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    Author’s Note

    Written after watching leaves fall outside my window — a reminder that nature doesn’t rush or resist its seasons. It simply lets go.

    #ConfidentStrides | #SweetNSocial | Written by Tonia Tyler

    Before You Go

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